As we have mentioned on here before in order to be successful online you need to stand out from the crowd. We take a look at how to avoid these profile cliches.
People reading the following clichés will have heard them time and time again. So give yourself the best possible chance of being spotted and avoid these right now.
1: Common situations made idyllic but with no individual take on why you enjoy it, such as: Walking on the beach holding hands, or cuddling up next to a log fire, or watching the sunset over mountains.
Here you really are stating the obvious, I mean who wouldn’t like either of these situations.
Alternative:
Yes, you may enjoy these but so do 90 percent of the population.
Instead of this talk about why you enjoy the things you like.
Such as I enjoy mountain biking because… or I enjoy exploring new places and seeing new things because…. By presenting a unique take on a common experience it will help you stand out.
2: Spelling out the most common date, such as: I Love dinner and a movie, or love a Sunday walk followed by a roast dinner in a pub.
Again its 90 percent of the population’s most common date, it screams I’m not very imaginative.
Alternative:
Don’t put the words on your profile into describing your ideal date, put them into describing something about what you want from a relationship.
Describe why you want to meet someone and how you feel the partnership can tackle those obstacles you come across.
3: Stating clothing choices, such as equally comfortable in joggers or smart attire. Is this really your best selling point? Do you really need to mention this in the most important piece of free text that you have to grab someone’s attention?
Alternative:
If clothing is really important to you its ok to say so, but you need to point out why it is.
For example, does dressing smart empower you, or do you dress casually as you like to get out of the house in order to explore local places etc.
4: Spelling out you know how to treat a lady/man. This is along the right lines, but you need to tell them how you go about this, as people have different opinions on the best way to treat someone.
Alternative:
Instead of telling someone you know how to treat the opposite sex well tell them how you treat them well.
Perhaps you’re the old style romantic who would always open the door, or you always fix dinner for your guy, or perhaps you would always treat them to breakfast in bed on the weekend?
5: The most common one, let me guess you have never done this before? No one is born to internet date so at one point everyone has never done it before. Please don’t waste words writing this.
Alternative:
There is no real alternative, just avoid it!
Also, avoid saying that you have been burnt or hurt in previous relationships. Also, stop feeling sorry for yourself. Nobody wants to spend time with someone who sounds like they are sorry for themselves!
So avoid these profile cliches and you will stand out in the dating crowd!
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Here is our guide to choosing your online dating username
1. Get it right first time
On the vast majority of dating sites, your username is the only thing you cannot change once selected. So take great care in choosing it.
It will be one of the first things that a dating site asks you to choose (if they require it) and we would, therefore, suggest if they do you stop there and have a think about it.
2. Do not mention any body parts!
For some unknown reason people like to mention one of their body parts in their username, this is usually a complete turn off for the opposite sex.
Examples we have seen are “Long_D**k”, “Big_T***”, you get the picture.
These are probably fine on adult dating sites but are a definite no for mainstream ones.
3. Do not mention romantic connotations
Again a complete turn off for the opposite sex so avoid where possible. Everyone is on a dating site to find romance and love, you don’t need to spell it out in your username.
Examples are “cupid_1122”, “I_Heart_U_11”, you get the picture.
4. Don’t go for video game, cartoon or comic character names.
One really more the men! Loads of you choose names that are character names from comics, video games or cartoons.
Yes, you might be into these but you don’t want to make that obvious from the moment a woman searches for you!
You want to introduce them to that later on! Plus a username like that does make you look a little childish, which again is a complete turn-off.
5. Try to mention something that sums you up in your username
Try to bring something about you into your username, but only if it isn’t completely boring. This should spark some interest, enticing someone to read on, but it also a fairly easy way to select a username.
So that’s our quick guide to choosing your online dating username.
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In this post, we reflect on 5 factors that could affect your ability to find a date online.
1. Compromise
I have said on here previously that online dating has revolutionised the way we now go about meeting single people, but how it has given everyone choice when dating.
For example, do you want to meet someone with brown eyes or blue eyes? Do they have to have brown or blonde hair?
This choice also means that people seem to think they can meet someone who is “their dream” date and has no flaws.
The reality I’m afraid is that nobody is perfect and if you think that you are affecting your chances of finding love online.
The number of times I have heard people say after a good date. Well, she was really nice, but she…. usually the but’s are minor but as everyone has this ideal in their head, they stop seeing them in search of that one, which they sadly may never find!
Ask any happy couple, are there things you would like to change about your husband/wife?
The usual answer is yes, but they accept that they are different and learn to live with it.
This is something you MUST do if you want to find love online.
2. Commitment – in terms of replying and communicating
Online dating isn’t something you can do half-heartedly.
In order to be successful, you need to commit to finding love online. That means you need to:
2.1. Search profiles, find people you would like to find out more about and message them!
2.2. Reply to messages you receive on a timely basis
2.3. Log in reguarly to make sure you appear at the top of the search results.
2.4. Work on your profile, make sure your photos are great and that your free text is well written and promotes a response.
2.5. Arrange dates with people you chat with.
If you show commitment, it will come across to other people on the site.
If you were single you would much rather meet with someone who is committed to finding someone special over someone who is not.
So show commitment (I know that work freaks some of you single people out but it really is a must!)
3. Confidence
Along the same lines as commitment, you need to show confidence… not to the point of arrogance but you certainly don’t want to come across like a wet lettuce.
Remember you are an exciting, wonderful person to meet, so why not be confident about it.
Confidence needs to come across in your profile, your messages and on that first date.
Nobody likes to be with someone who isn’t proud of themselves and confident that they are a great person to meet!
4. Honesty
The simple rule is to be honest from day 1! If your not honest from the start its difficult to be honest if things go well and the relationship flourishes.
When you talk to most people about why a relationship broke down, the most common response is that one of them lied about something.
5. Joining the right dating site from the start
You must join the right dating site from the start. Otherwise, you are not giving yourself the best opportunity to find love online.
All dating sites offer a free trial membership. We suggest you use this period to take a look around the site, run some searches to find people you might like to date and get to experience the dating community.
Why not join 2 or 3 sies for free so that you can then make an informed decision as to which you like best.
So there you have it, 5 factors which may be affecting your ability to find a date online
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Here are our top 8 tips for replying to an online dating message:
1. Get the length right
So you want to make sure you get the length of the message right!
If they have only written a couple of paragraphs to you, you only need to write a couple back.
Also getting into a long written conversation is not what you want to do! You want to write a couple of times and then arrange a date to meet in person!
Over time your messages will naturally get longer, but the first few can be fairly short as you’re getting to know one another.
2. Answer their question (if they included one).
Most initial emails from other people will include a question.
Make sure you answer that question in your response.
If you don’t it shows that you haven’t taken the time to read and understand their question. Which will not be a good signal to them.
3. Don’t include personal details
Don’t include your personal email or mobile number as there is no need to.
These are also classic examples of a scammer at work. So if it asks for this detail, either don’t go back, but if you want to reply do so with caution.
The number one rule is don’t include any personal information (such as phone number, email address or postal address).
Keep this to yourself until you are sure it is safe to disclose these details.
4. Write as you speak
To come across natural try to write your message as you would speak it.
Since it is short you could record it to your smartphone and then replay when it is time to type it out!
5. Include a question back
Always ask a question back as it should prompt a response.
We advise that you put a question at the end of your reply, this will be the last thing the person receives the email remembers and they will want to respond right away (fingers crossed).
6. Don’t try and make it funny
Don’t try and make the response a funny one!
It will only go to look like you are forcing the humour into your reply and that will not be a great read!
So just be natural in your response, if you think of something that is funny while you’re writing it then great, but don’t as I say intentionally go out of your way to make it funny.
7. Show them you have read their profile.
Try to drop hints in your response that show you have read their profile.
Try to pick up on something that is within your profile.
As we have always maintained, if you take some time in your profile and messages it shows you are serious and if you can demonstrate that you are much more likely to get a positive response.
8. Avoid spelling and grammatical errors
Avoid these errors by writing your response in a word processor (e.g. Microsoft word first) and then copying and pasting it into your message to reply.
No one likes to read something that contains a lot of spelling or grammatical errors.
So there you go! That’s our 8 tips for replying to an online dating message.
Take your time and get the reply right, this could be the start of great things to come!
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So how do you make your online dating profile stand out from the 1,000’s of others that are on there? Well here are our top tips
1. Join the right site
Take some time to work out which site is best to join.
Think about whether you fit the ideal profile for that site, we would also recommend you consider some niche sites as there are some great ones out there, here are a few examples of bad choices:
1.1 You’re a 5’0’’ male and you join tallsingles.co.uk (ok a bit extreme but you get the point)
1.2 You want someone to understand you and you want to find a long-term partner so you join Tinder! (again a little extreme but you get the point)
Consider joining a couple of sites for free so that you get a feel for who they have as members and if there is someone you could see yourself with registered on the site.
At this stage, you should also consider how many registered members live in your area as we believe it’s important that you date close to home.
2. Good photo
90% of profiles have a terrible main photo. So read our article and get it right!
You will want to consider the lighting, getting someone else to take it and making it look like you.
Remember when search results appear they are going to show your main photo!
So it’s one of the first things someone will see, usually even before reading any of the free text on your profile.
Do not even think about NOT uploading a photo. If you want your profile seen you need a profile.
Profiles with a photo get looked at 60% more times than those that don’t have a photo!
3. Pick the right multiple choice answers
So you’re on the right website, but you also want to get seen by the right members on that site, so make sure you select the right answers in the multiple choice section of your profile.
These all help the online dating site select the correct profiles for people running a search of members.
4. Great free text
Get the free text right on your profile.
These are the sections where you can write about yourself. So make it engaging, exciting tell them something that is going to make them want to find out more about you.
Take the opportunity to be unique and this is where you can really stand out.
You can read more about this in our great article here.
5. Get to the top of search results
Get to the top of search results by logging into your account on a regular basis and updating your photo and profile every other week.
Online dating sites have to sort the search results if many people fit the right criteria, the usual way this is done is based on “last activity” and possibly new material added to your profile.
So to get to the top log on regularly and update your profile regularly.
So there you have it, 5 Ways to make your online dating profile stand out from the others.
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In this blog post we discuss how to find the tall man of your dreams.
Perhaps you want to find that tall single man because you are tall yourself and want to be able to wear high heels when your on a night out and still be shorter.
Or perhaps you like the sense of security that comes with dating a tall man.
Or is it simply that tall men come across strong and powerful to you.
There could be any number of reasons, but now you have decided that’s what you want how do you go about finding them?
But before we look at how to go about finding a tall man.
Could it actually be you and your mindset that is holding you back?
Could it be your mindset that has stopped you finding a tall single man, rather than not looking in the right place?
So let’s take a look at some of the things you could be doing wrong that is preventing you from finding love.
Understand yourself
Understanding yourself is a really great exercise.
Remember all those faults you have, your eventual partner is going to have to accept and live with.
Have you ever thought about what they are? Would you be willing to put up with them yourself?
Really knowing yourself will make you much more ready to meet someone else.
Though personal growth is a lifelong process, if you’re struggling to figure out who you are, it’ll be much more difficult to figure out what you want in a relationship.
Be aware of your flaws and how you might address them when you meet someone.
Will you just try and dampen them? Or are you willing to try and give them up for good?
You might, for example, be very short tempered, perhaps your cure when you meet someone might be to walk out the room when you feel a hot rage coming on?
Don’t expect perfection
The media these days really try to sell us the “perfect” person.
But in reality, they don’t exist.
Admit it, you’re not perfect. No one is.
If you are looking for perfection you will never find him.
Does it matter if he is an inch shorter than you would ideally like him to be?
Understand what types of annoying habits rile you so much they’re a deal-breaker and be upfront about those, as well as those you don’t think of as a big deal.
If you can’t stand a forgetful man, you may have to bend on something else to find one who never forgets an anniversary or errand.
Just think the guy you turn away, for one small imperfection, might tick all the other boxes!
Should you have turned him down? Will you regret it afterwards?
Be happy being alone
Make sure you are content with your own company before looking to share it with someone else.
If you can spend time alone, it will mean that when you find someone to share your life with, you will quickly realise if it’s for you or not.
You should have enough meaning in your own life — through your friendships, work, and outside interests — to make you a person who is happy on her own but ready for commitment.
To be ready for that new guy in your life, make some “alone time”
If you spend all of your free time with friends or family, you are much more likely to be co-dependent.
There is also an added benefit to spending time alone.
You will also be a more fun person to meet because you’ll be excited to talk about all the things that matter to you
Love yourself
To find someone who loves you, you have to love who you are!
This doesn’t mean that you have to completely love every part of yourself, but that you are confident and happy in who you are.
Being aware of your flaws is part of loving yourself, and it will make you a much more grounded person in a relationship.
Never brag about who you are and what you can offer.
Just know that you are a worthwhile person deep down
Don’t think that finding the man of your dreams will make you love yourself, it won’t.
You need to build self-confidence yourself.
But I can assure it, loving yourself will make all relationships much easier.
Finding the tall man of your dreams
So now you have all that sorted, let’s get back to finding the man of your dreams.
So what can you do now to find the tall man of your dreams?
Take up a hobby or something you are very passionate about
If you take up a hobby, you may well meet someone there who is also into that hobby.
And the best thing is that you have common ground.
Something you already know you can talk to each other about.
Visit places where men you are interested in may be
Along the same lines as the point above.
You cannot sit at home and expect to meet the man of your dreams.
Physically going to places where men will be will greatly increase your chance.
Sobbing your heart out in front of Bridget Jones on the sofa might be a good night it, but it definitely won’t help!
If you want a man that cares about the community, go volunteer for a charity organization.
If you want a man that is an animal lover, visit a dog park or animal shelter.
If you are interested in a man of a certain religion, visit a church, mosque, or temple that is in line with your beliefs.
If you are into art, visit art galleries and art shows.
If you have a specific man in mind, go places where you know he likes to hang out.
Tell as many friends and family as you can that you are looking for love.
Tell friends and family that you are looking for love and ask them to share the news.
This means you get a really large reach with your message.
Imagine you tell 40 people and they all manage to tell 50 people. That means 2,000 people know about your quest for love.
That’s even without thinking about the second 50 people talking to their friends and family.
Potentially the news could spread far and wide.
If your friends know of someone, ask them to introduce you to the person in a group setting.
A group dinner or a group activity can help you get a feel for the person.
If you are feeling bold, have your friends set you up on a blind date.
Be adventurous and do something out of the norm
For example, you might go to a gym near work but not your local gym.
Why not one-weekend venture to the local gym, the man of your dreams might be waiting inside?
Or you might always go to your local coffee shop for a coffee at the weekend, why not go to the next towns coffee shop instead.
Trying to meet and mix with as many new faces as possible might just help you.
And finally, what about joining a dating site (yes we have said it!)
Are you totally new to internet dating?
If you are read on, if not skip to the next section.
There is nothing Taboo now about joining a dating site.
If you are trying to find the tall man of your dreams, they can really help. Why? Well because you can use the power search engines to filter on the tall men!
You see in the search functions on most sites (like match.com for example), you can filter your potential matches on height.
Bingo there you have it a list of tall single available men to contact.
Perhaps you have tried and not succeeded at internet dating?
Well if that’s the case perhaps you didn’t set yourself up to succeed.
Maybe your photo wasn’t the best, you can read or post on how to do it right here.
Or perhaps you didn’t update your profile regularly enough, you can read about that here.
There could have been issues with your profile. Did you know you can get a firm to take a look at it for you? They are called Fix my profile.
Perhaps you joined the wrong dating site?
Perhaps you didn’t find the tall man of your dreams because you didn’t join the right internet dating site?
There are so many to choose from.
You could join a mainstream site and filter on height, or you could join a niche site like ours.
Tallsingles.co.uk, is we think the perfect site for anyone looking to date someone tall.
We pride ourselves on making sure that the single people on our site are tall, that’s men and women over 5’5″.
Our site is part of the “Global Personals” brand, worldwide leading experts when it comes to internet dating.
They were aware that people could be using internet dating for all the wrong reasons so they set up the online dating protector (ODP). The ODP is a UK based team of 55 highly trained online dating safety experts, whose main objective is to keep you safe on our site and here is how they go about doing just that.
With over 1.5 million members on the site, it can be very difficult to make sure everyone is acting within the guidelines, we do also ask that members are vigilant and report anything they see that does feel right.
Here is a little bit about what ODP do and how you can really help.
Report profile.
On TallSingles.co.uk every profile has a “report profile” button. Should you see issues with the profile you should hit that button to report it. Once it has been reported the team at ODP will be alerted and they will then look into the issue.
The issue will be looked into within the hour. Any reports made are done so anonymously, so don’t be afraid to report something.
Live Chat
When you report a profile you will be given the option to chat with one of our experts. That way we can get to a resolution quickly. If we are in agreement and the other person has acted wrongly we will remove their profile.
Round the clock monitoring
Our team work 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to keep you safe online. Every photo and profile that is uploaded to the site is reviewed. The ODP team are trained to look out for common scammer signs so they can act on it quickly.
Anti-scam software
The team at ODP use custom built and very intelligent software to scan the site and give a risk rating to every single member. Those with a high-risk rating are constantly monitored and will be removed if they are not following the guidelines
Genuine members
The ODP’s main aim is to ensure that only genuine members remain on our site. That is why they use a variety of techniques to identify any members who may not be who they say they are. Alongside the profile reports and the anti-scam software, they will also cross-check members profiles to Facebook and google images.
Their aim quite simply is to allow us to run a dating site which has genuine members and one that is safe to use day in day out.
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In this article, we are going to tell you how to write that first message and make sure you get a reply.
So you have a great main profile picture as you followed our advice (if you haven’t read that post click HERE) and you have a killer profile (read our blog post HERE) so now you want to write that first message.
So here is a great way to write it.
1. Leave the subject line until last
You want the subject to match the content and you don’t know what the content is yet so plan the content first.
2. Remember they can read your profile so don’t repeat it in your message.
A common mistake people make is they rewrite their profile in their message and that makes your email worthless!
You see when someone sees you have messaged them, they are either going to read it first and then check out your profile, or read your profile and then the message. Some obviously might not go to your profile at all but that in our experience is pretty rare.
So repeating what is already in your profile just makes your message boring and that’s definitely what you want to avoid in your message.
3. Draft it on word
Draft the message on Microsoft Word or some other word processor, run a spelling and grammar check and then copy and paste it into the message.
You can also download a really great spelling and grammar checker called Grammarly which will check your message for errors as you write it. Best of all it’s FREE!
Bad spelling and grammar is a complete turn off!
4. Start with Hi, Hello or Hey
Start with one of these simple words.
5. The first sentence – when you write that first message avoid common beginnings
Avoid common starting sentences, such as:
I’m new to this and don’t know what to put
I saw your profile and just had to send a message (well obviously that’s why you are messaging)
I have been trying to come up with this message for ages.
These are all common beginnings, you need to stand out, grab attention and be different.
6. The first sentence – show you read their email.
We believe you need to show in your first email that you read their profile as if you can show that, you have shown you have taken the time to do so. Taking that time shows you are serious and that’s a great way to start!
So if you haven’t read their profile go and read it again. When reading it, make a couple of notes on anything they seem really passionate about. Do they pick out anything that they really enjoy doing, a past time? a hobby? Do they mention a specific place they really enjoy visiting? Have they had any fantastic experiences in the past that they are sharing on their profile?
Have they asked a question in their profile that you could answer in your email or an open-ended sentence? For example, they might have ended with “just send me a message” and you start your email with “I’d like to know you, so here’s your message”.
7. Avoid common content to stand out.
So as we always say you need to stand out, so here is a list of really common things people talk about, so you can avoid it:
Everyone talks about travel – Whether it’s “I have always wanted to go to….”, “I have travelled…”, “I loved my gap year when I went to…”, so leave the travel talk to message 2 or 3.
Rain, everyone seems to love it… they love to put “love watching rain…”, “love the clear air after it has rained…”, “love being out in the rain..”, It’s honestly amazing the number of times we see this.
People love talking about themselves, again the number of times people put… “I’m 32, single, have a steady job but something is missing”… well of course that’s the case it’s why you’re on the site in the first place!
I love having a laugh and I love being funny – Yes, of course, you do, everyone does don’t them? Again everyone puts that, but of course, it is a given right? Everyone wants to be with someone who makes them happy and laugh!
8. Do mention why YOU are interested in them
Something made you want to email them, just think about that, something made you want to email them out of all the people on the site, you chose them. So spell out what it was.
Was it the fantastic smile in their photo? Their beautiful long brunette hair? Was it the fact they were a gym freak? Or the fact they seemed to have a bubbly personality.
Spell it out to them, as you want them to know what you think is important to you about them. Plus pointing out nice things is flattering and everyone loves that!
9. Put a joke in there
Why not add a little joke, but make it easy to read if that makes sense and as subtle as possible. A great one I read once, was a guy who had no hair, put in his message “Fancy a walk along the seafront, I love the feeling of wind through my hair!”
Or you could put in your best funny joke.
10. End with a question.
End your message with a question so they have something to reply to. But again make it original and in keeping with the theme of the message. Again avoid the travelling questions!
So there you have it, that is how you write that first message! Do you have any other techniques you use to write that first message? If so we would love to hear them, why not drop a comment in the box below?
Make sure you don’t make these 5 internet dating mistakes
Here are our top 5 internet dating mistakes that we see single people regularly make and that we want you to STOP making them right now!
1. Not uploading a profile photo
Now let me ask you a simple question. Would you go to a bar and chat to someone who was wearing a balaclava. The answer (unless you’re into that sort of thing) must be NO.Why? Well because the person has hidden their identity and you don’t really know who they are. They could the nicest person underneath, but they are hiding that from you.
Why? Well because the person has hidden their identity and you don’t really know who they are. They could the nicest person underneath, but they are hiding that from you.
It’s no different on internet dating sites. Without a profile picture, you look like you are hiding something and hiding something in a relationship is never a good way to start!
Plus remember your profile is the first thing someone looking for you online sees, it appears in search results and next to any messages you send! So it’s vital you get it right! Here is our handy free guide to getting the right profile picture
Many people speed through their profile or don’t even complete it! The profile section is used to identify you in search results and is also one of the first things someone will read when they decide if they want to make contact.
Not taking time to complete this section really shows that you haven’t made the effort and that’s not going to go down well. The profile splits into two sections let’s take a quick look at both.
Multiple choice
There is a section for multiple choice, this helps the search function on the site pick out the most relevant people for someone’s search query.
Let’s take the following as an example. Let’s say you like “skiing” so in the hobbies section you click “skiing”. Now if someone is searching for people who like “skiing” as their interest as they really enjoy the same hobby, your profile has a good chance of being on their results list.
So only tick things that are relevant to you and that are true.
Free format
There is also a section where you can write something about yourself and about who you would like to meet.Now, this is where you really need to get your personality across to the person reading your profile. So make it fun, entertaining and interesting. You want someone to read it and think “Wow I really want to know more about this person”
Now, this is where you really need to get your personality across to the person reading your profile. So make it fun, entertaining and interesting. You want someone to read it and think “Wow I really want to know more about this person”
Also, try to pop in a couple of points here that someone could pick up on in an initial email. For example, you could put something like “I have a dream to drive across the USA”, or “I plan to run the London Marathon” etc.
Don’t write really long messages, it shows that you have too much time on your hands and it can make the process of dating online really dull. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t answer their questions or ask your own in your reply, just don’t go on and on.
Getting the message length right is key, also key to the messages is learning from the next mistake.
It’s not until you meet up with someone that you know if you really like them and if there is that magical spark! Everyone can sound good over a few messages, but what are they like to hold a conversation with?
There is no point spending 3 months emailing one another every day, only to find out that when you meet up there is no attraction. So keep it to a couple of messages and then be bold and suggest you meet up, yes you heard me you can be the one to make the move and yes that applies to women as well as men.
If it doesn’t go that well then put it down to a great experience and start finding someone new online. If it does work out, then fantastic, here’s to a great relationship.
5. Knowing your limits
Now we all like to think we have the body of David Beckham or the looks of Kelly Brook but in reality, that’s only true for a few of us.You have to approach people online who have the same level of instant visual appeal as you. For example, you are not going to see David Beckham date Sue Boyles, or Kelly Brook date Jeremy Clarkson (ok, I admit it a bit too far, but I hope you get my point).
You have to approach people online who have the same level of instant visual appeal as you. For example, you are not going to see David Beckham date Sue Boyles, or Kelly Brook date Jeremy Clarkson (ok, I admit it a bit too far, but I hope you get my point).
Deep down everyone knows their limits, I think you find them out at school. You know who the really good looking people were and you kind of knew where you fit on the scale. It’s the harsh truth, but it’s how love works. You’re usually not physically attracted to someone if they are in the lower league than you.
What happens when people start internet dating, is they immediately go after the league above. You want to date the best looking man/woman and you think you can just because you are on a dating site, rather than meeting them in person. So you send out 20 emails and you don’t get a reply, you’re disheartened and you leave the site.
But, IT WASN’T THE SITES FAULT, IT WAS YOURS, as you chose wrongly. Had you have gone for your league things could have turned out very differently.
So how many of these mistakes have you made? 1, 2? Well, now you can make sure you don’t make these 5 internet dating mistakes.
Did we leave anything off our list? If we did, please drop them in the comments below.
But now we need to write attention-grabbing headlines for online dating messages so that they get opened and read! So here are our tips!
1. Subject lines to avoid
You need to avoid going for the common subject lines as they just will not stand out in the message list in someone’s inbox.
Here are a few examples:
A. Well, I didn’t know what to put! (Far too common!)
B. Hey…. (anything starting Hey, Hi, How ya going, How ya doing…. Are terrible!)
C. What’s up (just terrible!)
D. saw your message on here and I just had to message you (again terrible!)
E. I’m the one you have been looking for (don’t ever come across overconfident)
F. You are who I have been looking for all my life (don’t use the life has dealt me a bad card line)
2. Write the message first.
As mentioned in our post about writing messages we suggest that you may want to write the message first so that your subject goes with your message.
3. Try to use something from their profile.
As mentioned when we discussed writing the initial message if you can drop hints in the subject that you have read their profile it will increase the chances of your message being read.
Let’s say they talk about being movie mad in their profile. You drop a few hints that you like movies in your message and your subject line could be “let’s film a hopeless romantic film together?”, or “I don’t want you to be the star of Bridget Jones IV”.
Or for example, they may love skiing, so again you spoke about it in your message and then what about the subject being “Should we try a black run together?”, or “Have you skied down a slope hand in hand?”
4. So what if their profile doesn’t give much away? Then what?
We have come up with a few subject lines and first message lines below that should get you started. Remember we want to write attention-grabbing headlines to get our message read.
A. Attention-grabbing headline: Do not read this! First line of the message: Unless you’re going to say yes to a date. Oh, dear looks like we need to arrange that now!
B. Attention-grabbing headline: 5 things you didn’t know about me First line of the message: Well ok I will give you one of them, but the others you will have to get on our first date. [Then go on to tell them one really interesting/different thing about you]
C. Attention-grabbing headline: I can read your mind First line of the message: You had to click read!
D. Attention-grabbing headline: !NEPO TSUM UOY First line of the message: [Anything you want it to be]
E. Attention-grabbing headline: Open and you won’t be disappointed First line of the message: [Anything you want it to be]
F. Attention-grabbing headline: I love this place…… First line of the message: which serves fantastic Italian food in a very rustic atmosphere! Dinner there would be my treat.
G. Attention-grabbing headline: Knock, Knock…. Who’s there? First line of the message: A Hopeless romantic?
H. Attention-grabbing headline: I want to grab your attention!!!!!!!!!!!!! First line of the message: Great now that I have it here is a little bit of information about me.
I. Attention-grabbing headline: You will smile when you read this… First line of the message: As I smiled when I wrote it.
5. Don’t ramble!
Don’t make your first message too long, I would suggest a couple of paragraphs in length. One paragraph to tell them something interesting about yourself and one to tell them why you were interested in their profile.
So have you got any great headlines for first messages that you would like to share with us? Leave them in the comments below.
