Should you plan your first date?

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Congratulations you have got your first date

Oh yes, you have got your first date, now all you need to decide is should you plan your first date? By that we mean, how much planning should go into it before you meet up?

The venue needs to be planned and possibly booked

Well let’s establish one thing straight away and that is that of course, you are going to plan the venue for your date as it may need booking.  Plus, of course, you have to let the other person know where you intend to meet them.

Is that all you should plan?

But the bigger question is how much should you plan for after that? When you plan your first date, the answer to that one comes down to what sort of person you are.

Are you confident?

Let me explain, someone who is very confident and self-assured will probably not need to plan their date as by their very nature they will not be all that nervous and conversation should flow very easily. Contrast that to someone who is not very confident and lacks self-esteem and is worried about how they look. They are obviously going to be shy, perhaps a little withdrawn and nervous on the first date. The conversation may not flow naturally and sweaty palms may be an issue. So let’s look at the how to plan your first date, depending on whether you are an overconfident person or a shy person.

If you are an overconfident person

So what would planning do for them? Well for our overconfident single person, not a lot. I think that the only thing they need to be cautious about is rambling on about themselves and not giving their date any chance to talk. They need to be aware of this from the outset and remember (not plan) to let their date speak and to listen to the conversation.

If you are a shy person

It’s a different story for our shy, retired single person. For them, a little bit of planning might get them out of an awkward silence. Before they go on the date they should think of some good conversation starters that could just avoid the silence they so dread. Things to think about would be “Do you enjoy travelling? where is your favourite destination? Do you play any sports? Where do you work? What do you do there?

Now the only problem with planning is that you may be so focused on getting those questions out that you don’t listen to the conversation.

Ok, so our conclusion

So we don’t think planning is vital, listening is the number 1 thing, however, a couple of questions in the back pocket could be the get out of jail card you need in that awkward silence.

Do you plan your first date? If you have in the past, has it helped?  If you haven’t do you wish you had? We would love to hear your story, just drop it in the comments below.


Have you also read our great guide to planning your first or second date? You can read all about that HERE.

If you are not getting anyone contact you on a dating site, there could be a problem with your profile picture, we have a guide on improving that HERE


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