Which online dating site is best for you?

That’s a great question and actually, how do you know which online dating site is best for you?

There is no right or wrong answer to it.  With so many different types of sites out there and so many different things people are looking for, not every answer is going to be the same for everyone.

However, there are some steps you can take to make sure that you get to the right group of sites. We suggest the following:

Casual V Long-term

There are sites out there that are for casual/”adult” dating. Typically the format is that you message online, meet up and enjoy sex. You may never see them again and it’s certainly not going to be long term.

Then there are the “long-term” sites which people join to meet someone for a long-term relationship, perhaps even marry.

So think to yourself why do I want to meet someone? Do I want to be in a relationship for a long time or do I just want to have some fun?

Niche V’s Mainstream

Within the casual and long-term categories, there will then be “niche” and “mainstream” sites.

Niche means the site is geared towards a very select group within that category, so for adult sites, this could be, “spanking”, “bondage” etc.

A mainstream site in this category will cater to just adult.

In the long-term category, again you have niche sites, such as sites for “tall people”, “people who like hiking”, etc. But you also have your mainstream sites that cater to everyone.

At this point you need to think, is there one specific thing I really want?

If you have decided on adult dating, have you got any sexual fantasies that you would like to play out?

If you are looking for a long-term site is there one requirement your date must have, e.g. they have to be a large people (as your into large people), or tall (as your tall or want to date someone taller than you), or into painting (as you like to paint) and so on.


Now you have refined as much as you can, there still might be ten websites that come up when you run a google search.

So you need to narrow down that list to two or three.

How do you do that?

Well, take a look around the site… ask yourself, is it user-friendly, clearly laid out, read the blog posts do you like what they are writing about? Does it feel like there is a sense of community?

Get the list down to two or three websites that you like.

Join them all as a “free” member

Ok so now it’s time to join the all the sites you have shortlisted as a “free” member. This gives you a chance to find out the following.

1. Are there members in your area?

You will probably want to start dating close to home so you will want to make sure there are singles in your area.

Let’s assume for example that website A has 5 members in your area meeting your search area, but website B has 500 members in your area meeting your search criteria, which will you want to join.

You can’t get to this data without joining as a free member.

2. Are there members who meet your dating requirements?

Again take a good look at the members, are they the sort of single people you want to meet if they are then you have found the right website to join.

3. What is the price of joining?

If you want to date people online then you will have to pay a membership fee. Without paying for the service you will not be able to read messages from other members or send messages to other members.

So again take this simple example, website A costs £20 a month to join, website B costs £40 a month to join.

Now you need to weigh up if you think website B can justify the extra £20 charge?

Note that not all dating sites are upfront about their membership fees and usually you can only get to this information if you join for free and then go to the upgrade page.

So now all you need to do is decide which of your shortlisted websites you are going to join based on these 3 factors.


So there you have it, which online dating site is best for you? Really comes down to what you want to get out of it.

We hope you found this useful.  Now you will also want to set up your profile correctly, so why not take a look at our blog posts on doing just that:

Do typos in your dating profile spell disaster?

Don’t make your online dating profile too picky!

What makes a good profile photo?


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