How can I tell if someone I met online likes me or not?

Sometimes single people using internet dating sites are never too sure if someone they met online likes me or not.  In this blog post, we take you the five things to look at.

By far the easiest thing to look out for is when someone is not that into you.  This should be a red flag to indicate that perhaps you should cut ties with them.

Here are a few things you might pick up on.

1. They tell you they will call and then they don’t

If someone is interested in you, they will make the effort to find time to contact you.

If they can’t speak to you they will send you a quick text to tell you why. If they are simply not making the effort to communicate with you it’s a good sign that they are not that into you.

At this point, you should start believing that they are not a long-term prospect and make the decision to stop contacting you.

If they don’t contact you again, then you know it’s over. If they do, then they have obviously thought about you and realised that they want to see you again, which is good news!

2. You’re the one always initiating contact and arranging dates

If you find that you are always making the arrangements, the next time you meet up you should indicate that it’s their turn next time and then just wait.

If they don’t contact you after that meeting, don’t contact them, after all, you TOLD them that the onus was on them to make the arrangements.

As a general rule, it’s in men’s genes to usually set up the dates, so as a woman you should think they are not all that into you if they don’t start to make the arrangements if they know you are interested in them.

3. They don’t respond to your emails or texts for a long time, sometimes you have to send another to get a response.

You should expect a reply within a reasonable amount of time. If you email or text during the day then it is perfectly reasonable that you might not get an instant reply given they could be busy at work.

However, if you don’t get a reply that evening or the following morning then you should start to think they are not that into you.

If you don’t get a reply at the weekend, when let’s face it most people have 10 minutes to send a text or write an email then I would suggest you stop contacting them.

4. At the end of your date, they don’t do or say anything to suggest another

At the end of a successful date, if you’re both keen then you should also both be eager to arrange another.

If you find that you’re always the one suggesting another date then I would suggest you think again. Next time don’t mention another date and see what happens.

If nothing happens then you have your answer… move on!

5. They tell you they are not interested

It seems rather obvious, however a lot of the time you are so caught up in the moment that you do not realise they are telling you that they don’t love you.

Also, they might not say it in such a direct way, it might come out as “I need some space”, or “I need to think about this” etc. So do not miss the obvious.


So there you have it, 5 telltale signs that they might not be that into you.  At which point you should cut ties with them and run!

As the saying goes “there are plenty more fish in the sea”, so move on and hook another!


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